Research shows up to a third of us want to try non-monogamy, and the field of “threesome” dating apps has nearly doubled in revenue in the last year. For some, hentai apps are becoming a place to not only find thrills but also love. here, TallulahI am married and the mother of a two year old child. 42, She revealed what happened when she and her husband, 41, opened up about their relationship.
I always knew I was bisexual. You might consider yourself pansexual these days. Before I met my husband, Horatio, I had very fleeting relationships with women, or people who presented themselves as women. Throughout our relationship, we have spoken openly We disagreed about our sexuality and preferences, but since we got married 15 years ago we have become fully monogamous. We now have two children, ages 10 and 12, and we also have careers: I work in prenatal care and breastfeeding counseling, and Horatio works in finance. But I didn’t have time to meet other people.
Three years ago I heard about Feeld. This is a dating app that, with good communication, gives you the opportunity to discover yourself. And I started remembering some of our old conversations. Horatio said that was fine if I wanted to start experimenting with other people. He had completed his spiritual work, but did not consider it a problem.
I started doing solo meetups with some women and enjoyed it. Then Horatio said, “What would you think if I rode in the field too?” We started seeing other couples together. It was more temporary in that we got along, had fun, and went our separate ways. It was essentially just an exploration of who we are and what brings us joy and fun.
One day, Horatio connected with a couple and the idea was for the four of us to meet.
The night we were scheduled to hang out, I was told that the guy, Matt, would be away on business. He said, “If you want to make up with my partner, feel free to tell me.” So we had dinner with her and went back to the house to make the meetup a success. I did that several times.
Then when Matt came back, we decided to have a so-called meet-up to see if the four of us would hit it off. We wanted to make sure we were all on the same page. Luckily, we were. I remember thinking that night when I first met Matt, I really like this person. It wasn’t just physical, he made me laugh. He brought out a side of me that hadn’t really been shown since I met Horatio. That surprised me.
Matt then asked if I wanted to see his solo. I sat Horatio down and asked him what he thought about it. Communication was very open and honest.
We started meeting once a week. Soon we both realized it was more than just a physical connection. By summer, we started using phrases like “I love you.” It wasn’t something I intended to happen, but it did happen and it was pretty successful overall.
I now consider myself two long-term partners. I consider Matt my boyfriend. I’ve been with him for about two years now.
I love Horatio and Matt, who are in many ways the same. The ability to listen to them and hold their space. To make me laugh and make fun of myself. You can bring anything to either side and they will allow you to talk without judgement. Both are great in bed. The various reasons I love them include: I built a family with Horatio, he has given me years of great connections and challenges, and he has made me a happier person than when we first met. They made it for me.
Matt allowed me to see different parts of myself. He hugs me and pushes me, but he accepts me for who I am. I still get excited when I know I’m going to meet either of these men.
Matt and I don’t live together now so we try to escape from time to time. We went to the Isle of Wight last summer and spent an extended period of time here at my home this year. Horatio was kind enough to take the children to their parents and take care of them.
Horatio also has several personal partners who meet with him himself. He was with his partner over the weekend and had a great time. I feel happier knowing he is happy with someone else. The word conversion is said to be the opposite of jealousy.
But I think feelings of jealousy can also be very helpful. It means that you have unmet needs within yourself. You need to understand why you feel the way you do and communicate that to your partner.
When we started opening up to friends about what we were doing, the general consensus was, “That’s a truck.” I haven’t told all my friends because some people might not understand. But most people are happy for me to move on with my life. They know I always take safety measures, they know I get tested every three months, they know I take precautions.
My children also know all about my lifestyle. Those who meet with our children are fully vetted. We spend time alone, away from our children, and get to know what they are like before we are introduced to them.
We didn’t give them the details, but we were very honest with them when we were sure we wanted to achieve this lifestyle. I asked my son what he thought about mom and dad spending more time with different people. And his answer was that it meant having more people to love. Being open with my children means they can choose a partner without fear of being judged.
One thing I discovered from all of this is that there are no limits to who I can love. This is the same way my love for our first child didn’t diminish after the birth of our second child. Of course, there is a bit of a hierarchy when it comes to priorities, but it’s more about the organization of daily life. If you want to spend time with Matt, you have to think about whether he is capable of doing so. what is his wife doing? what is my husband doing?
I felt even more joy in being able to tap into different energies. When I’m going through something, I have amazing people that I turn to for strength.
